You can’t say, “They are treating me bad.” Because simply you are allowing them to do it to you. You are in charge of this situation: nobody is controlling you in your life. It is you. “They lie to me”. Alright, truth is that you let them do it. You need to have a consistent mindset of “Don’t let others treat you the way you do not want them to treat you”.
People are going to hurt you because you allow them to do it. People are punching you because you allow them to do it. People are lying to you because you allow them to do it. Your partner is cheating on you because you allow her/him to do it. People are using you because you are allowing them to do it.
“I get offended if I am treated the way I do not treat you. I am not misusing you, but why you are doing this to me. I don’t treat you that way.”
If you do not want others to treat you the way you do not want them to treat you, proper thing to tell them is : “You can not treat me in the way I do not treat you” If you are giving it to them, they are not it giving to you. It is cut off.
If you want to be happy, you have to put yourself under your own control in your life. Do not let yourself to be a doormat and let them walk all over your house. You need to tell them, “You are not walking all over my house with that dirty shoes. You are not doing something that I do not allow you to do. If you can not do thing I tell you to do in my house, you need to be out“. You need to take control of your life.
I have been allowing people to treat me the way I do not want them to. Been there, done that. If you are with someone who has been doing things that you don’t want them to do. It is your fault. It is just human nature that people do things if they know that they can get away with it until they burn their fingers by whatever happens to them. You are the one in control of your life. You are the one who makes you happy, not someone out there, but it is your job and responsibility.
You have to tell them, “You can not get away with it this time, because I do not want to have those people around me in my life. If you are going to do that again, I do not want you in my life”.
“I am being so honest to you, and if you don’t want to be truly honest to me, you are not around me anymore.”
If they ask you to forgive them, you are forgiving them because you do not want to have hatred in yourself, but you are not going to be with them.
Power of choice is within you, it is not out there in the world!
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